Picked up Caleb from Baseball Camp today and asked him the typical, "How did it go bubba?" Of course his answer was, "Awesome! I had fun, Dad!" I've learned through the years to be a really good conversationalist, and you bet that I'm going to be really good at having quality conversations with my son Caleb. I'd like to share a few key things about my talk with him today.
Too many people ask boring questions, and that is why some people are hard to connect with. I think every husband and wife will want to thank me after this, because I do believe that using what I'm going to share will help immensely in marriage. It will work in all relationships: ministry, business, soul winning, sales, friendships, or in any setting where communication and connection are necessary. Rather than asking the typical boring questions, learn to ask interesting questions that will generate interesting conversation and help you connect, learn more about the other person, and show them that you are truly interested in what they are saying. Here are the questions that I used on Caleb today that led to an hour long conversation and made him feel like 10 million dollars because his Daddy showed extreme interest in his thoughts and feelings.
1. How was baseball camp today?
2. Tell me one thing Coach said that you liked?
3. Tell me one thing you learned?
4. Who were the 3 most positive kids out there today?
5. How did it make you feel to get Camper of the day?
6. Why do you think you got picked?
7. Who were the 3 most negative kids or who had the worst attitude?
8. Did you have enough to drink?
9. How did you like the lunch I packed?
10. You'd rather have Pizza?
11. What did most of the other kids eat?
12. What kind of pizza?
13. What position did you play?
14. Name the 3 best players out there?
15. You think you were the best? LOL ;)
16. On a scale of 1-10 how would you grade the over all camp?
17. What made you give it a 9?
18. It wasn't long enough? LOL ;)
19. So was the girl that picked on you as you walked by pretty?
20. Did you get her name?
That conversation led to so many other things, and it got him into the flow. He was talking my ear off after that! You need to be stop being so dull with your family and friends when you are talking to them. You don't even want to get my started with the 100's of "Would You Rather" questions that I have made up. You ask anyone that knows me, and they'll tell you that I'm the “master question asker.” It's also the reason why I am able to truly connect so well with people. However, you must also be a really good listener. Not one time in that hour conversation did I check my phone, text, email, or Facebook. The key to really showing someone that you are listening is to, (1) Make really good eye contact, (2) Be alert to key things they say that could lead to other questions, and (3) Repeat back to them what they shared with you. Ok, go!
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